The Truth About Heartache

Dear Life,

It's all about the ups and downs in a relationship. When do your heart ache? Is it when he said, “I don’t want to talk to you!” Or was it when he said, “I don’t want to see you!” Or was it when he said,” I hate you and I feel disgusted seeing you”. Whichever it is or whatever it is, the moment he speaks sometime negative to you, you already felt hurt. That is if you truly ever loved him.

Just like what the quote said, "Relationships work when 2 people have the same intention to grow together". When both have the same relationship goal and work towards the goal, holding hands, helping each other to be a better person.

Let us not kid ourselves. No matter how much you love each other, there will always be argument that we can't avoid. Whether it's going to be a huge one or a small one, it will still be going to hurt both parties. However, to face this argument will then depends on the maturity of the person. What will be the intention and the final goal. Let's just said the one that loves the most will always be the one that hurt the most. It is difficult to measure who loves more but it will be easier to measure who cares more about the relationship. Every action you take, what do you consider? The other person or the welfare of the relationship?

Different people have different priority in life, but that doesn't mean that they should abandon the thoughts about the relationship, expecting the other party to understand them that their priority is something else. For example, a working husband and a stay at home mom - one priority is work to earn money for the family, the other one has priority to take care of the family. Hence, when it comes to argument, both might have different perspective because their priority is different. Husband might think that the wife is doing nothing at home, hence, have no rights to speak her point. But the wife is so busy and tired taking care of the family and the house, waiting for the husband to come home to a comfy family, wants to be heard as well. But just because the husband thinks the wife did not bring in money, and has no rights to speak. The wife wants to be heard because all she can ever speaks of is the welfare of the family and their relationship as a married couple. This is a very simple example of daily arguments of a married couple. If both parties are matured enough, they could hear each other out with an open-mind, understand each other and improve the relationship better. But if they only think of themselves and insist to win the argument, what leads to the relationship?


I'm speaking from live-examples. From what I experience and from what I heard from the people around me.

Love is both a beautiful and yet hurtful experience in a person's life.


Luv,
*rachelle*